Rationalisation or How To Be Fearless

In the middle of one of the most entertaining conversations of my life, a very drunk 32cats told me something very interesting. Each one of us, he slurred, has one thing in life that we're meant to do. And everything that happens to us before that is just experience we need to make that one thing happen.

So every bad job teaches us what we need to know to be brilliant at our dream job. Every failed relationship is a lesson we need to learn before we can settle down in the perfect one. Every dead dream needs to have died for that one big dream to come alive.

My point is this: we all fuck up. In small ways and big. We do things that are truly heinous and things that are unforgivable. We act in ways that will haunt us for years to come. Sometimes we know perfectly well what we're doing and at other times we don't have a friggin' clue till it's too bloody late. And then, we let the fear of fucking up hold us back. We cling on to our regrets and tell ourselves to never, ever do it again, so help us god.

"Why do we fall, sir?" Alfred says in Batman Begins, "So we may learn to pick ourselves up."

I can't believe I'm quoting from a Batman movie at this hour, but the man's got a point. Perhaps it's time we stopped beating ourselves over the head with our mistakes. Perhaps we make them for a reason bigger than the fact that we were stupid, young, heartbroken or drunk.

Perhaps we need to take a deep breath and do what comes naturally to us.

Fuck up.

Comments

R said…
This remotely, remotely, reminds me of this scene from Lock, Stock and Two Smoking Barrels. (REMOTELY, I swear.)

"Your stupidity may be your one saving grace."
- Rory Breaker
Vini said…
Lots of good dough over the last few posts! And I read them all at one go - so I am just trippin on the cookies right now :)
25BAR said…
Your friend is a philosopher.
And you too!
Anonymous said…
You are so bang on!!! This piece just pierced through my heart. Every sentence is so damn true! very well written and a perfect reality check for the day! Keep it up :)
Darshan Chande said…
Well, you can rationalize falling by saying it happened so that you learn how to pick yourself up... But I doubt about "that one thing". I mean, is that really the plan behind making us learn lessons. Okay, lessons are fine, I agree. But I don't believe there's "that one thing" for which we learn so many lessons... because if so, what do we do after "that one thing" has happened? No more lessons? Or how do you know when it was "that one thing"?... I believe everything is "that one thing" which we are meant to do. If succeed, be happy. If not, rationalize...

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